Indian and Pakistani forummers . . .

I met an Indian friend at lunch (had a nice curry) and he is distraught that his family back in India are pressuring him to go back and marry someone they have tried to arrnage for him. He has been dating a very nice Japanese girl for a few years now and hopes to stay in japan in the IT job he currently has.

What's the deal with arranged marriages? My friend is worried that he will lose his relationship with his family if he refuses this . . . is that likely?

is that likely?

Very likely especially if its a middle class family.

Parents in India are still very strict and orthodox when it comes to the marriage of their children. Some even break all alliances from their children if they marry someone of their own choice.

SG wrote:

is that likely?

Very likely especially if its a middle class family.

Parents in India are still very strict and orthodox when it comes to the marriage of their children. Some even break all alliances from their children if they marry someone of their own choice.

Welcome to the 18th century,

taipan wrote:

SG wrote:

is that likely?

Very likely especially if its a middle class family.

Parents in India are still very strict and orthodox when it comes to the marriage of their children. Some even break all alliances from their children if they marry someone of their own choice.

Welcome to the 18th century,

True. Its like this in India with very good no. of families especially when it comes to the marriage of their children.

SG wrote:

is that likely?

Very likely especially if its a middle class family.

Parents in India are still very strict and orthodox when it comes to the marriage of their children. Some even break all alliances from their children if they marry someone of their own choice.

Really? I'm not surprised as I've had a fair bit of experience with Greeks and Italians . . .

Have you had friends in this position, SG?

Have you had friends in this position, SG?

Quite a few, tac. And not just friends, quite a few in my family (cousins etc) also had to go through similar treatment from their parents.

SG wrote:

Have you had friends in this position, SG?

Quite a few, tac. And not just friends, quite a few in my family (cousins etc) also had to go through similar treatment from their parents.

What did they do? Cave in?

OK, now that idiot, batman, has pissed off . . . what is the story with bringing foreign wives/husbands back to India? I know his girlfriend and she is very nice, bilingual and works in the same IT comp as him. What is the Indian attitude to East Asians . . .

taipan wrote:

SG wrote:

is that likely?

Very likely especially if its a middle class family.

Parents in India are still very strict and orthodox when it comes to the marriage of their children. Some even break all alliances from their children if they marry someone of their own choice.

Welcome to the 18th century,

Welcome to SG's marriage.....

Hmm, back on C4, I recall SG making very depressive posts on 2 months before his marriage counting the D-day as it approached....

Batman wrote:

taipan wrote:

SG wrote:

is that likely?

Very likely especially if its a middle class family.

Parents in India are still very strict and orthodox when it comes to the marriage of their children. Some even break all alliances from their children if they marry someone of their own choice.

Welcome to the 18th century,

Welcome to SG's marriage.....

Hmm, back on C4, I recall SG making very depressive posts on 2 months before his marriage counting the D-day as it approached....

Batty, don't turn this thread into a shitfest, FFS!

SG wrote:

Have you had friends in this position, SG?

Quite a few, tac. And not just friends, quite a few in my family (cousins etc) also had to go through similar treatment from their parents.

Including yourself I suspect, given the amount of sooking I read before you married?

tac wrote:

Batman wrote:

taipan wrote:

SG wrote:

is that likely?

Very likely especially if its a middle class family.

Parents in India are still very strict and orthodox when it comes to the marriage of their children. Some even break all alliances from their children if they marry someone of their own choice.

Welcome to the 18th century,

Welcome to SG's marriage.....

Hmm, back on C4, I recall SG making very depressive posts on 2 months before his marriage counting the D-day as it approached....

Batty, don't turn this thread into a shitfest, FFS!

OK. I am off. Since you asked nice. I won't be posting further here.

tac wrote:I met an Indian friend

**snigger**

Brass Monkey wrote:

tac wrote:I met an Indian friend

**snigger**

Did I spell that incorrectly? Not a word I use often . . .

You surprise me......

tac wrote:
Did I spell that incorrectly? Not a word I use often . . .

No, no.. you did fine

Demelza wrote:You surprise me......

Shhhhhhhhh

Brass Monkey wrote:

Demelza wrote:You surprise me......

Shhhhhhhhh

It's okay.....he's been told to keep quiet now.......

Demelza wrote:

Brass Monkey wrote:

Demelza wrote:You surprise me......

Shhhhhhhhh

It's okay.....he's been told to keep quiet now.......

Hey, Dem, thanks for sending me all those emails from Nigel last night . . . interesting reading . . .

**makes a 'chatter hand', starts 'squawking'**

tac wrote:

Demelza wrote:

Brass Monkey wrote:

Demelza wrote:You surprise me......

Shhhhhhhhh

It's okay.....he's been told to keep quiet now.......

Hey, Dem, thanks for sending me all those emails from Nigel last night . . . interesting reading . . .

Oh you ARE awake.'
She's already had a go at him about that.
Shall I show you those as well?

Demelza wrote:

tac wrote:

Demelza wrote:

Brass Monkey wrote:

Demelza wrote:You surprise me......

Shhhhhhhhh

It's okay.....he's been told to keep quiet now.......

Hey, Dem, thanks for sending me all those emails from Nigel last night . . . interesting reading . . .

Oh you ARE awake.'
She's already had a go at him about that.
Shall I show you those as well?

Go ahead . . . of course it's evil to post a PM on the forum, but you just keep sending me other people's emails . . .

Listen... there's a service called 'private messaging'. What should happen is you both use that - otherwise, you're going to seem like voyeuristic, desperate, sad little qunts who are so needy they clamour for affirmation from a bunch of people they don't know properly and who really, really don't GAF.

Thing is, tac likes it all over the forum.

Demelza wrote:Thing is, tac likes it all over the forum.

I think that if you are threatening people, like your threat to tell eowyn's life story on the forum, it is nice to make those in the open where people can see you for the scumbag that you are . . . you and Nigel prefer nasty little games behind closed doors, but that's not to my tatste . . .

tac wrote:
Batty, don't turn this thread into a shitfest, FFS!

**tips nose**